So if any of you reading this know me, you know that absolutely love being pregnant and love the entire labor process...I think its truly the most amazing thing! And how proud should us women be that God chose us to be the "baby maker" I feel like he has put trust in me to finish out his beautiful creation of new life.
However, sometimes women that can get pregnant at the drop of hat forget, that some women are not able to at all. And then their are women who don't want to have kids of their own because of the chance of a genetic disorder/disability being passed along. My heart hurts for any woman who would not get the chance to be a mother if she desires to be, I think things like this happen so that women can learn to be stronger. I as a surrogate would become stronger knowing that I am giving the gift of life to a deserving family, and the genetic parents are already SO SO strong, in the fact that they have overcome the idea of not being able to of children of their own and being able to ask someone else to help them.
Parenthood to me has been THE most rewarding gift I have ever received and I think any man or woman wanting a child deserves to experience the joy and laughter a child brings. Granite there are plenty of bad times, but the good out weights the bad, for sure!:)
Why I think I would make a good surrogate?
I have done my research for starters, I have an agency selected for when I decide I want to do it, which wont be until I am finished with school most likely. When someone hears that I dream about doing this one day, the next thing I hear is..wouldn't be too attached to the baby to give it away?...And the answer is no..this baby in no way shape or form would genetically be mine and I am very well aware of that. I actually am the exact opposite....the part I am most thrilled for is seeing the parents face as their sweet baby comes into this world!! I know how I felt the moment Ella and Eli were born and its a feeling only a mother and father know...I desire for people to feel that feeling(that want it of course)...its almost like a drug...weird comparison I know but it makes you feel SOOO amazing!!!
So todays blog is basically going to be explaining what my blog is all about and why I started it. So here goes..
While I will for sure be posting things that happen in our life to keep a record for myself, kind of like a journal...Im also going to be posting things like product reviews(good and bad) and just tips and tricks I have learned as being a mother!
My hopes...
I find myself constantly searching the internet for things, that have to do with my kids. Is this lump okay? Should his poop be the color? What milestone should we be working on? Methods of discipline?...ect. So I figured why not take what I learn and pass it along! In hopes of someone finding it and helping that person! Im quite aware that I dont know everything there is to know about kids, but what I do know I would love to share with other moms or soon to be moms!! After all....us mommas have to stick together, right?
Until next time,
Michelle
Question of the day: What are you getting your kids for Christmas?!
Okay, so something I wanted to touch base on when adding a second baby to the mix and some struggles that I have ran into..My number one thing is the question: When should we have another baby? I heard ALL the time to wait until Ella was older and that age two is SO hard. I have always wanted kids close together so I went with my gut and it turned out perfect! Ella is sooo in love with brother..and he simply adores her! They are the absolute cutest and I would not have it any other way!
We talked about Eli like he was already here...she completely understood my pregnancy and everything that was going to happen!
We wanted Ella to be the first one in the room to meet her brother- I think it makes it not as overwhelming, and you get to spend sometime as a family before everyone comes in to see the baby
You'll notice in this photo the rest of the family has entered, but Ella is still focused on her brother and not everything else that is going on...and Im 100% focused on my two babies!
Such a proud BIG sister..Fun big sister shirts or big brother shirts are awesome for them:) Also, big sister or big brother gifts to open at the hospital! We got Ella a Woody doll to go along with her favorite Jessie doll...she loved it!
Best freinds:)
So cute!
So I dont know if its this way for everyone, but Ella still treats her brother like he is brand new! She gets so excited when he wakes up from naps and when she gets home from school she runs over to kiss and hug him!- She is also always looking out for him which is adorable! To sum it up...Id just say "she gets it"...she knows what being a big sister is and fits the definition COMPLETELY!
When she does get jealous which is mostly around grandma and grandpa..she will say something cute like...mommy you hold brother so paw paw can play, but she doesnt throw a fit about it which is awesome!
So how to know if YOUR ready?
Are your finances in order?
Are you and your partner agreeing on trying for another baby?
Can your house accomadate another baby?
Can your car accomadate another baby?
Is there a particular stage you would like to get past with your first born?(potty training is a common one)
Daycare accomadations she be taken into consideration
Where do you see yourself in 10 months?- Would a baby fit in your picture?
How long did it take you to conceive with your first? For some women it could take multiple cycles to finally get pregnant!So think about that...
These are just a few things I thought of before trying to concieve baby Eli!
One struggle I had was learning to love a second baby..
Before we go on I want you all to know I love both of my kids SOOOO much!!
But around 36 weeks it really hit me that this sweet boy was going to be making is grand entrance sooner than later! It was time to mentally prep myself and this was something I struggled with, even though I had been bonding with him for 9 months.. I had been bonding with my now 3 year old for 2+ years...how was this new baby going to fit into this equation??!! I spent one night just bawling my eyes out listening too....
Go ahead and play both of these at the same time!, I like watching the pictures with this song:)
I would just sit there watching Ella and thinking about how amazing she is...nobody could replace her. And thats where I stopped..
Nobody would be replacing her!
We were just getting ready to add someone equally amazing to our family- I didnt realize this until the night before my induction- My house was clean, Ella was helping Brad with yard work and I was relaxing in the chair, in our room where I planned to nurse baby Eli. I always feel wierd talking to my belly..I mean other than the normal cutesy baby talk...but to actually speak feelings and such always made me emotional, but on this day I knew it was something Mr. Eli and I needed to discuss. I needed to "clear the air"
With Eli being inside of me I guess I assumed he just knew how I was feeling and what I was thinking. So I needed to let him know I was feeling guilty about thinking I couldnt love him like Ella- While having this needed yet strange conversation with my unborn baby, I was sobbing like a baby myself. I told him things that was afraid of, fun things that he would do, I asked him questions (of course not expecting a response)-Who will you be? Will you have hair...we all know your sister sure doesnt! lol, will you love me like I love you? Pretty much anything a pregnant woman dreams and is curious of that whole 10 motns we talked about! Well I talked he listend:) Call me crazy, but this one, on one time with him put me at ease and the moment he was born I was in love all over again...it was like God placed a new heart in me...because just when I thought I loved Ella with my entire heart a spot opened up for Eli!
My Induction Day
About two minutes old and SOOOO loved! my SOO many!
SO the point of this little story I shared is that its totally normal to feel this ladies! Your not crazy and your older child will still love you:)
Thats all for now
Until next time...
Michelle
"The sooner you have kids, the more time you have them"
-Me
Question of the day: Every get that dreaded unwanted advice? If so what was it?---Mine was to wait to have baby number 2:)
Okay so I have alot of friends that are curious to know what life would be like with two kids..So I wanted to share this fun video with you guys!!!:)
Life isnt that much different, its just busier. When Ella is busy with a craft or in the bath or napping I no longer have "down time" I have a sweet baby boy to hang out with. And that is another point I wanted to make, we were blessed with such a GREAT baby! He is so laid back and such an easy baby boy, so that definately helps...I say if your managing well with one..and you want more kids than go for it!!! The earlier you have them, the longer you get to enjoy them:)
Question of the day: How many kids do you want? How big of an age gap? and why?:)
