Okay, so something I wanted to touch base on when adding a second baby to the mix and some struggles that I have ran into..My number one thing is the question: When should we have another baby? I heard ALL the time to wait until Ella was older and that age two is SO hard. I have always wanted kids close together so I went with my gut and it turned out perfect! Ella is sooo in love with brother..and he simply adores her! They are the absolute cutest and I would not have it any other way!
We talked about Eli like he was already here...she completely understood my pregnancy and everything that was going to happen!
We wanted Ella to be the first one in the room to meet her brother- I think it makes it not as overwhelming, and you get to spend sometime as a family before everyone comes in to see the baby
You'll notice in this photo the rest of the family has entered, but Ella is still focused on her brother and not everything else that is going on...and Im 100% focused on my two babies!
Such a proud BIG sister..Fun big sister shirts or big brother shirts are awesome for them:) Also, big sister or big brother gifts to open at the hospital! We got Ella a Woody doll to go along with her favorite Jessie doll...she loved it!
Best freinds:)
So cute!
So I dont know if its this way for everyone, but Ella still treats her brother like he is brand new! She gets so excited when he wakes up from naps and when she gets home from school she runs over to kiss and hug him!- She is also always looking out for him which is adorable! To sum it up...Id just say "she gets it"...she knows what being a big sister is and fits the definition COMPLETELY!
When she does get jealous which is mostly around grandma and grandpa..she will say something cute like...mommy you hold brother so paw paw can play, but she doesnt throw a fit about it which is awesome!
So how to know if YOUR ready?
- Are your finances in order?
- Are you and your partner agreeing on trying for another baby?
- Can your house accomadate another baby?
- Can your car accomadate another baby?
- Is there a particular stage you would like to get past with your first born?(potty training is a common one)
- Daycare accomadations she be taken into consideration
- Where do you see yourself in 10 months?- Would a baby fit in your picture?
- How long did it take you to conceive with your first? For some women it could take multiple cycles to finally get pregnant!So think about that...
These are just a few things I thought of before trying to concieve baby Eli!
One struggle I had was learning to love a second baby..
Before we go on I want you all to know I love both of my kids SOOOO much!!
But around 36 weeks it really hit me that this sweet boy was going to be making is grand entrance sooner than later! It was time to mentally prep myself and this was something I struggled with, even though I had been bonding with him for 9 months.. I had been bonding with my now 3 year old for 2+ years...how was this new baby going to fit into this equation??!! I spent one night just bawling my eyes out listening too....
Go ahead and play both of these at the same time!, I like watching the pictures with this song:)
I would just sit there watching Ella and thinking about how amazing she is...nobody could replace her. And thats where I stopped..
Nobody would be replacing her!
We were just getting ready to add someone equally amazing to our family- I didnt realize this until the night before my induction- My house was clean, Ella was helping Brad with yard work and I was relaxing in the chair, in our room where I planned to nurse baby Eli. I always feel wierd talking to my belly..I mean other than the normal cutesy baby talk...but to actually speak feelings and such always made me emotional, but on this day I knew it was something Mr. Eli and I needed to discuss. I needed to "clear the air"
With Eli being inside of me I guess I assumed he just knew how I was feeling and what I was thinking. So I needed to let him know I was feeling guilty about thinking I couldnt love him like Ella- While having this needed yet strange conversation with my unborn baby, I was sobbing like a baby myself. I told him things that was afraid of, fun things that he would do, I asked him questions (of course not expecting a response)-Who will you be? Will you have hair...we all know your sister sure doesnt! lol, will you love me like I love you? Pretty much anything a pregnant woman dreams and is curious of that whole 10 motns we talked about! Well I talked he listend:) Call me crazy, but this one, on one time with him put me at ease and the moment he was born I was in love all over again...it was like God placed a new heart in me...because just when I thought I loved Ella with my entire heart a spot opened up for Eli!
My Induction Day
About two minutes old and SOOOO loved! my SOO many!
SO the point of this little story I shared is that its totally normal to feel this ladies! Your not crazy and your older child will still love you:)
Thats all for now
Until next time...
Michelle
"The sooner you have kids, the more time you have them"
-Me
Question of the day: Every get that dreaded unwanted advice? If so what was it?---Mine was to wait to have baby number 2:)
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